In the most basic sense, selfregulation (自我调节) involves controlling one's behavior and thoughts in pursuit (追求) of longterm goals. Generally, people who are good at selfregulation tend to see the good in others and view challenges as opportunities. They exactly know what they want to achieve, act in accordance with their views, and devote their best effort.
A badtempered child who hits others won't be popular at school. An adult with poor selfregulation skills may lack selfconfidence. He may have difficulty handling stress, and often, this might be expressed in terms of anger and anxiety.
How do problems with selfregulation develop? It could start early when a baby isn't treated with enough care. Later, an adult may struggle with selfregulation, either because this ability wasn't developed during childhood, or because of a lack of skill in managing difficult feelings. When left unchecked, over time this could lead to risky behavior such as taking drugs.
One of the most frequently used methods is to change your thought patterns, which means that you think about a situation in a positive way, rather than one that's likely to increase negative emotions. Rather than thinking that this reflects something about yourself such as "My friend hates me"， you might instead think, "My friend must be really busy".
A. Try to cheer yourself up after disappointment.
B. Do the usual series of things at a particular time.
C. A child who doesn't feel safe may have trouble selfregulating.
D. A lack of selfregulation will cause problems in life.
E. Anyhow, selfregulation is so important that we should learn to use this skill.
F. For example, imagine a friend who doesn't return your calls or texts for several days.
G. Also they can calm themselves when feeling upset and cheer themselves when feeling down.
