Next time a customer comes to your office, offer him a cup of coffee. And when you're doing your holiday shopping online, make sure you're holding a large glass of iced tea. The physical sensation (感觉) of warmth encourages emotional (情感的) warmth, while a cold drink in hand stops you from making unwise decisions- those are the practical lesson being drawn from recent research by psychologist John A. Bargh.
Psychologists have known that one person's feeling of another's "warmth" is a powerful determiner (决定因素) in social relationships. Judging someone to be either "warm" or "cold" is a primary consideration. "Much of this is rooted in very early childhood experiences. Bargh argues, "When babies' understanding of the world around them is shaped by physical sensations, particularly warmth and coldness. "Classic studies by Harry Harlow, published in 1958, showed monkeys preferred to stay close to a cloth "mother" rather than one made of wire, even when the wire "mother" carried a food bottle. Harlow's work and later studies have led psychologists to stress the need for warm physical contact from caregivers to help young children grow into healthy adults with normal social skills.
Feelings of "warmth" and "coldness" in social judgments appear to be universal. Although no worldwide study has been done, Bargh says that describing people as "warm" or "cold" is common to many cultures, and studies have found those feelings influence judgment in dozens of countries.
To test the relationship between physical and psychological warmth, Bargh did an experiment which involved 41 college students. A research assistant handed the students either a hot cup of coffee, or a cold drink, to hold while the researcher filled out a short information form. The drink was then handed back. After that, the students were asked to rate (评估) the personality of the assistant. Those who had briefly held the warm drink regarded the assistant as warmer than those who had held the iced drink.
"We based on our physical experiences even when we think abstractly (抽象地)," says Bargh.
