Understanding Your Feelings Helps You Name And Tame (驯服) Them
We all experience various feelings all the time. Some of them feel great, some feel unpleasant, and it's helpful to be able to recognize and understand how you're feeling so you know how to deal with it.
They can include anger, sadness, worry, loneliness and shame, as well as surprise, happiness, courage and hope, among many others. All feelings are there to be felt and some can be more uncomfortable than others. It's OK and natural to experience different emotions – and that includes emotions that might not feel nice.
To deal with your feelings you need to recognize what they are. Are your fists clenched (攥紧)? Does it seem like there's a knot in your stomach? Next, pay attention to what you're thinking at this time. Or are you thinking that you really don't want to do something? Once you have identified how you're feeling, you can label it by saying, for example, "I'm feeling angry" or "I'm feeling lonely" .
You can understand a difficult feeling and help yourself to handle it. If you're upset about a difficult feeling, like "I'm feeling angry", you might count to ten to calm down. Perhaps you notice "I'm feeling nervous", and you might talk to someone about it. The person you talk to may be able to give you reassurance, more information, a different point of view, or even help you take action to deal with the cause of your difficult feeling.
A. Experts call this "name it to tame it" .
B. How can you deal with different feelings?
C. Perhaps you have the thought, "It's not fair" .
D. Feelings are how people experience emotions.
E. First of all, notice what's going on with your body.
F. They are shown through various body movements, to begin with.
G. Feelings are sometimes labelled as good or bad but that isn't helpful.
