By the end of last year, my husband and I had settled in a house with an ocean view in New Zealand. We love it here and fell like we have1our life goals—well, one of them. The other goal is to2what we have now.
Life isn't always like this. I3when I was growing up I always felt as though I was going through life for the only purpose of 4 my parents. The only5with this was that I was the only person who knew about that6.
Things didn't really 7 when I went to boarding school. I was absolutely sorry I would let my parents down. I was 12 years old then and880 kg—not good for a 12-year-old girl. I hated myself. I did not9sports activities because I didn't know what to do. My self-esteem（自尊）was below the horizon and I felt a total10, as if I was not good enough for11.
In my second year I thought I had turned things12when I came top of the class. It was only later that I learned13is not about people-pleasing and seeking14from others is not the way to long-term happiness—this is something that needs to come from within, from feeling complete, feeling15, loved, successful and worthy. This is how I am today.
