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It is common for people to complain. Actually, even the kindest and most thoughtful people complain. And complaining isn't always an annoying thing. However, if someone makes complaints frequently, the problems will start. So, these tips will help you quiet complainers.
Change the topic.
Some complainers will be distracted from their negative mood if you change the topic in a direction that interests them. If your neighbor is complaining about the noisy community environment, you can tell her you bought some beautiful flowers yesterday.
Show your care.
If the complainer keeps complaining to you, and asks something like," Can you understand me?", don' t always say, "I've heard and gotten it." Instead, listen carefully and make some eye contact with the person. Stand in his shoes, and if possible, offer him some advice.
When someone frequently makes complaints to you, ask nicely what he's done to improve it. This question may help to abruptly end the complaint and remind the person to do something useful.
Be honest.
If someone complains to you many times before and you must cut the conversation short, you can simply be honest, saying you need to focus on your own business.
Have a heart-to-heart talk.
Maybe the complainer is very close to you, such as your best friend or your partner, and he stresses you out with loads of negative attitudes. This will let the person know your true feelings. Otherwise, if you always hide your true feelings and continue listening to his repeated complaints, finally you may start avoiding the person.
A. Focus on the effect.
B. Encourage the person to take actions.
C. Don't be afraid of letting him down.
D. Avoid saying the word complaining.
E. Talking about the problem with him frankly is important.
F. Sometimes, making a complaint can at least release our stress.
G. If your colleague is saying ill words of the boss, tell him there will be some new employees next week.
