The daughter shouted as soon as she entered the door, "This world is too unfair!" It turned out that she was talking to her deskmate while having a math class. She was caught by the teacher. And finally she and her deskmate were both punished.
"It's fair. I said." That's not fair! There were clearly several classmates who were talking at the time, but the teacher stared at us and only punished us," she said angrily.
I knew that my daughter cared about this matter. I asked her, "Should you be punished for speaking in class?" She nodded, but said at the same time, "It is unfair for me that the teacher didn't punish other students who spoke!" I told her, "Don't talk about others. Just look at yourself. Was it wrong to punish you?" She lowered her head and answered, "No." I said, "That's fair! You know what the price of speaking in class is. You did it and got the punishment. So it's fair. The teacher didn't punish others, because she could choose to forgive, but it didn't mean unfair. "My daughter could not understand. But she was not as angry as the moment she entered the door.
People are often like this. Standing and looking at themselves, they are very clear about what they are doing. They also know what their rewards and punishments should be, but the unfair mentality (心理) is that when they look up at others. The feeling about unfair comes from comparing with others. The most important thing is to understand fairness in a deeper way, not only from your point of view!
