"Have you checked the oil in the car, Ted?" my father used to say to me. Sometimes our phone calls would begin and end with an only inquiry(询问) about the oil, without asking anything else. Fathers have lots of love to give, but it's often provided through useful advice. In my experience, it's mostly about the car.
Why can't fathers just say" I love you" or" It's great to see you"? Why can't the sentences" I care about you" and" You made my life better from the moment you were born" be heard? Because fathers tend to express their true feelings indirectly. You just have to understand the language—Fatherlish(父亲式语言).
When I was 17 years old, I went on my first road trip in that old car. My father stood on the corner on a cold early morning to say goodbye." Roads are dangerous," he said," so don't try driving faster than a horse. And remember to take a break every two hours. And every time you stop for gas, you really should check the oil." At the time I thought his speech was pretty funny and old.
Dad's long gone now. But after all these years, I realize that if I had owned a copy of the Fatherlish-to-English dictionary, I would have understood that the speech that I always laughed at was simply Dad's way to express love and care.
