As my kids and I walked around a community garden the other week, I asked them what veggies they could identify. We were in Alberta, where many plants were still in their early stages of growth — I wasn't optimistic about what the kids would be able to name by leaves alone. However, they called out, "Tomatoes! Potatoes! Carrots!" Their answers made me even prouder than if they'd just explained some knowledge of physics. All the time we've spent in our home garden is actually sinking in.
Although I've been gardening for years, this year feels different. Spending time in the garden has helped me with my own well-being at a trying time, and it has given me a new way to connect with my kids when I'm running out of steam.
My garden is wild, full of life, and a bit messy. Honestly, the same goes for my kids — and I don't expect perfection from them either. Unless you're relying on your yield for money or food, it's a good idea to have your expectations for gardening as low as possible. My kids say they "love the garden" but "don't like gardening" — I think they mean they don't like the chores. If I have some weeding or potting to do, I'll also have some entertainment for them, which can be as simple as "find these 10 rocks" or "wet this plot with your water gun".
Involving the kids in every stage of the process can be powerful and fun, even if what you have are just a few containers on a balcony. "Gardening allows us to spend free, unscheduled outdoor time with our kids," writes journalist and author Shannon Brescher Shea in her book Growing Sustainable Together. "Let your kids lead the way. Invite them to participate in every step, from planting to harvesting, but don't force it."
One of the best things about gardens is the food, but frankly, my kids are not going to be pushing greens into their mouths any time soon. Finding uses for garden goods that go beyond food production can spark interest and supply you with some unexpectedly good results.
