You may feel like you have a lot of casual friends or acquaintances (熟人) but no one is close. You're not alone. Not having any close friends is surprisingly common, especially in your youth.
You might feel nervous meeting new people. It's totally natural for lots of us to feel that way. So try to focus on the other person instead of yourself. The more you practice meeting new people and forming connections, the easier it will get.
You may push people away instead of getting close to them. If you have a few friends but you wouldn't necessarily treat them as close ones, you might be holding yourself back a bit. There are lots of reasons why you might be doing this, either on purpose or subconsciously, so try to give yourself permission to let people see the real you.
You might not make enough time for friends. They can disappear if you accidentally forget about your friends. Everyone's busy, so don't worry too much if you forget for a week or two, but try your best to talk to your friends often. Even if you can't hang out with them in person all the time, just sending them a text or calling them can be enough to keep up that relationship.
When you make plans, stick to them, and let your friends trust you. Close friendships happen when people can have faith in each other, so you want to be the best friend that you can be. Do your best to stick to your words, and keep up with the plans that you make with your pals. Over time, you'll grow closer because they know they can trust you.
A. You could be a little unreliable.
B. You might enter new phases of life.
C. Remember that they might be feeling shy, too.
D. There are many factors that may account for that.
E. Sometimes we hold people at arm's length accidentally.
F. Good friendships will get much closer if you keep in contact.
G. Probably it will become a little easier for you to keep up with all of them.
