How often do you look back on your life and wish you had done things differently? As uncomfortable as it is, regret is a common part of our life. Accept it and use it for learning and improvement. But the advantages of regret don't come to us by chance. We have to look for them on purpose to improve ourselves.
People often say that regret is like a ghost: not completely clear but always intimidating (令人紧张不安的) . Make a list of your regrets. Write down why each one still makes you feel terrible and its bad influences. Be honest without catastrophizing (坏处想) . For exam-ple, you should not only understand that you hurt a friend's feelings, but also understand that this almost certainly didn't take the person's life. Take those things down.
After you make a mistake, just think that life moves on. Sometimes you just can't stop kicking yourself. Perhaps you dropped out of school many years ago and are always thinking about today how much money you would be making if you had continued your education. Now it's time to forgive (原谅) yourself. Tell yourself," It's true that I made an unwise decision. But I will make up for that and will not waste another minute of my life regretting a decision that cannot be changed. "
Your regret can teach you to become smarter and more successful——if you let it. If you never experienced regret, you would keep repeating the same behavior that caused you to miss opportunities or ruin relationships. In your list of regrets, also write down how you want to change your behavior, and express your resolution to go forward. Next, list everything you can do right now and get started.
Life is a journey full of pleasures and pains. To live it well and fully means learning from every bit of it, including the mistakes, and moving forward.
