Your Path to Emotional Maturity
Emotions play a critical part in life. In order to grow and be better than before, you must learn to be emotionally intelligent. Let's explore some powerful strategies to help you become emotionally mature!
Try using"I" statements
Whenever you feel hurt, you need to tell others your feelings in a considerate way. The best way to do this is by using "I" statements instead of "You" statements. For example, you should use the statement: "I feel miserable and heartbroken" instead of "You make me feel miserable and heartbroken".
Own your feelings
If you want to change yourself, start with taking ownership of your feelings. However, in some situations, instead of owning your feelings, you tend to deflect (转移) them and make others feel guilty about how you are feeling. Embrace them as a part of yourself because they are a part of you, right?
People interact with us like we are mind readers sometimes; this happens mostly in relationships. Your partner would want you to know exactly what they want and when they want it; this can be extremely annoying. Just as you aren't a mind reader, others aren't either. You need to share your needs with the other person, and they need to do the same with you.
Mind your actions and words
Often, you say a lot when you are emotional, especially when you are angry. You need to mind whatever you say and do; this can either make the other person love or hate you. The strategy in a stressful situation is to focus on yourself instead of focusing on others; this will calm you down instantly.
Always question your thoughts
Actions and words have the same importance; this is what I need you to understand. In some situations, your loved ones could be hurting you through their words or their actions, and you could also be wrong. What happens in more than 70% of situations is that you let negative thoughts take hold of you; this is completely wrong.
A．Attempt to be mind readers.
B．Communicate your needs.
C．You'd better not let negative thoughts question your judgment.
D．Thus, rather than dump them on others, learn to take charge of your feelings.
E．The approach is non-aggressive and describes you as emotionally mature.
F．If not controlled, it can have severe consequences, especially in your relationship.
G．Let's say that you get into a fight with your partner, and you also get hurt.
