Dear Dr. Manners,
My close friend seldom says "please". She will say "Can you get me that bag?" or" Move it over there!" I have told her a lot of times that it is polite to use "please" and "thank you", but she hardly remembers. I feel that she is ordering me around without "please", and I always get angry.
We have been close friends for over 10 years. It seems that I can't stand it any more. What should I do? Can you help me?
Sincerely,
Hawkins
Dear Ms Hawkins,
When your friend does not use polite words, it seems that she is ordering you to do something. So you have right(权利) to hate her behavior.
Ask her why she doesn't use "please" or "thank you". Explain to her that it makes you feel uncomfortable. Also, you don't need to do anything for her because she doesn't seem kind or pleasant when she asks you to.
Maybe your friend was not taught how to use "please" or "thank you" in the normal conversation. So you can try to teach her that. Remember it is difficult to find another close friend if you lose one.
Best regards,
Dr. Manners
