A

Look at people in the eye when you talk to them. That way, they'll find it easier to talk to you. It's very difficult to have a conversation with people whose eyes are looking to the left, to the right, at the floor—anywhere but the other person's face.

B

Have confidence in yourself. Think of your good qualities(素 质 ). People are attracted to those with self-confidence.

C

Try to make friends with the kind of people you really like, respect, and admire(钦佩)—not just with those who are easy to meet. Be friendly with a lot of people. That way, you'll have a bigger group of people to choose from and have greater chances for making friends.

D

Plan things to talk about with people. Find out what's in the newspaper headlines, listen to the top CDs, learn about what's new with your favorite TV or movie star. The more you have to say, the more people will be interested in having a conversation with you.

E

Once you start to get to know someone, don't be friendly one day and then too shy to talk the next day. Be consistent ( 前后一致的). Consistency is something people look for in friends.

F

You should not be too confident. If so, sometimes you might annoy people. You should enjoy the company of other people so that they would like to come to you when they want advice.