Why won't my parents let me eat in my room? I throw away my trash.

—Aaron, Oregon

    During a time when your parents aren't busy, kindly ask them why they made this rule. Then listen to what they have to say. They might be worried about crumps or spills, which could make the room dirty. Or they may have other reasons. By speaking to them openly and honestly, you and your parents may come to understand each other's point of view.

    I have a hard time being nice to my sister, but I am super nice to my friends.

—Savannah, Virginia

    Sometimes it's normal to treat friends better than family. One reason may be that you know your family will always love you but friendships can break down with unkind or rude behavior.

    Why not think of your relationship with your sister as another one of your friendships? Challenge yourself to treat her as you would treat one of your friends. Try to remember that each kind, helpful and loving action builds a stronger, happier relationship between you. You may be surprised at the results.

    My family is always late for activities, and it's embarrassing for me.

—Thomas, Connecticut

    It may help to talk to your parents about this sometime when they're not busy. You might say “Is there something we can do to be on time for activities?” Try to keep a positive attitude, and listen closely to what they have today.

    You should also do what you can to help everyone get out of the door on time. Get yourself ready and then see if there is anything you can do to help someone else. Grabbing a jacket for someone or turning off the TV and lights are just two ways you can pitch in.