Have your parents ever helped you with schoolwork or other projects? Do you think they are giving you too much help?

Du Peng, 18, from Hebei has a story to share. When he was in middle school, his mother often let him join in English speaking competitions. To help her son win, Du's mother once asked an English teacher to help write a speech draft(稿子).

"Although I got good results at the competition, I didn't feel proud," Du said.

Du is not alone. Nearly 90 percent of Chinese parents said that they have helped their kids too much in school, according to a recent survey of1, 504 parents done by China Youth Daily. And 70 percent of parents agreed that over parenting (过度照顾孩子) could lead to an absence (缺失) of their children's independence.

Children, on the other hand, want to do things by themselves. "Doing things by ourselves gives us a strong sense of achievement," said Liu Jiawei, 13, from Jilin. "We will leave our parents in the future. So it's better to develop skills and live independently as early as possible. "

However, some think parents have good reasons to help. Jiang Qi, 14, is from Beijing. When he was in primary school，his parents often helped him by creating handmade works. "Our teachers are very strict with us, " Jiang said. "If I didn't do my work as well as others, I would be criticized (批评) for it."