Parents with high expectations for their children are nothing new to Chinese kids. However, people often don't realize that children also have expectations of their parents. ▲
China Youth & Children Research Center did a survey on this topic in the United States, Japan, Republic of Korea and China. It showed that 83.8 percent of Chinese children want to be friends with their parents.
But the reality is different. Traditional Chinese values might be a reason. Respecting one's elders and the concept of hierarchy (等级观念) are preventing children from becoming friends with their parents.
Both parents and children should make efforts to create friendship in the family. As children, what can you do to create a pleasant atmosphere (氛围) at home and make friends with your parents?
Act like an adult.If you want your parents to give you more freedom (自由), you should show them that you're ready to be treated differently. For example, learn to use self-control. Show them that you can manage (安排) your time well.
Open your heart.US psychologist (心理学家) Carl E. Pickhardt wrote in Psychology Todaythat sharing feelings with our parents can lead to positive (积极的) changes, while not sharing them can cause misunderstandings.
Care for your parents.Do something nice or helpful for your parents. For example, help them with some household chores, make them gifts or teach them some computer skills. Their trust in you will grow.