When you meet someone for the first time, you will get a quick idea in your mind of that person in the first moment. Your feelings about other people, however, are really just show the way that you look at yourself.

    So you can allow others to be the mirror to see your own feelings of self-worth more clearly. And, you can see the people you don't like as mirrors to show you what you are not accepting about yourself.

    To live peacefully with others, you will need to learn patience. A big challenge is to let your judgment of others be a lifelong research of yourself. Your task is to consider all the judgments you make onto others carefully and to begin to see whether you can use them to help yourself to become better.

    Several days ago I had a business lunch with a man who showedobjectionabletable manners. My first feeling was that he was impolite. When I noticed that I was judging him, I stopped and asked myself what I was feeling. I discovered that I was nervous to be seen with someone who was eating with his mouth open.I was very surprised to find how much I cared about how the other people in the restaurant judged me.

    Remember that your judgment of someone will not stop you from becoming like him. Just because I think my lunch partner impolite, it does not prevent me from looking or acting like him. In the same way, my patience to him would not make me eat food with my mouth open.

    When you get close to life in this way, those whom you hate and those whom you love can be seen as mirrors, guiding you to discover parts of yourself that you dislike and to accept your greatest personalities you are proud of.